How can I make my spouse more like me?

How can I make my spouse more like me? I didn’t say how can I make my spouse like me more. I said how can I make my spouse more like me.  There’s a tendency for us to want others to see the world in the same way we do.  To like the things we like and to have the same views and values as we do.  What happens if you’re living with someone who sees the world differently?      Questions this week: How can an older construction worker develop new sources of income? How can I find new coaching clients?  Can my wife read books online and make money from that? How can I persuade my spouse to see the value in setting goals? And I’ve got good news –  And a whole lot more questions if we get to them. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”— Eleanor Roosevelt (Tweet This)   When you look at the way that you’re bent You can do things for which you are meant Your passions and skills Will pay all your bills And other great blessings are sent  Show Notes: Episode – 07-28-17 Title: N/A Subtitle: N/A Summary: In this episode, Dan talks about the theme of making your spouse more like you. People have their own unique personalities, and those personalities are what separate them from everyone else, including family. Rather than let those unique attributes lead to misunderstandings, embrace them. Learn to love them for having an alternate perspective, but don’t be afraid to let them know about something they might be missing. Tune-in to hear Dan talk about this and so much more in this week’s podcast. Sponsored By: FreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to https://www.freshbooks.com/48days Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:38 – Preview of Today’s Show on “How can I make my spouse more like me?” I didn’t say how can I make my spouse like me more – I said how can I make my spouse more like me. There’s a tendency for us to want others to see the world in the same way we do.       To like the things we like and to have the same views and values as we do. What happens if you’re living with someone who sees the world differently? Questions This Week: How can an older construction worker develop new sources of income? How can I find new coaching clients? Can my wife read books online and make money from that? How can I persuade my spouse to see the value in setting goals? And I’ve got good news “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”— Eleanor Roosevelt 02:21 – A poem from Cliff Feightner When you look at the way that you’re bent You can do things for which you are meant Your passions and skills Will pay all your bills And other great blessings are sent 02:51 – FreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to https://www.freshbooks.com/48days 04:29 – Good news from Kurt in Alaska! He was a groomsman for 2 friends 04:44 – The bride’s son, Tristan, died 2 years ago – he did not survive but was able to donate all his major organs 04:54 – 6 months ago, the person who received Tristan’s heart, Jacob, reached out to say Thank You to Kelly and Becky 05:11 – As a surprise wedding gift, Kelly flew Jacob to Alaska for the wedding 05:31 – It was an amazing surprise! 05:39 – The photographer posted the photos that night and 2 days after, the website had 19M hits 06:50 – Dan shares an amusing story from Ontario, Canada 06:55 – Retired mechanic built a $550 staircase on a dangerous local park trail 07:08 – When several members of the community have fallen down the rocky path, local citizens called for price estimates 07:34 – City estimated it would cost $65K – $150K 07:49 – The mechanic found other neighbors who wanted to finance the stairs, hired a homeless man to help, and in 3 hours they built it for $550 09:12 – Dan wants to share a resource, Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Retention 10:05 – “Find interesting ways to surprise people during the unexpected times” 10:15 – Don’t make gifts all about you 10:32 – True gifts don’t have company logos on them 10:54 – Infusionsoft is offering 27 email templates you can use right now! 11:37 – Dr. David Powers got Dan one of the copies of The Strangest Secret. He asks, How can an older construction worker develop new sources of income? 13:16 – The lady selling doll clothes patterns David referenced is Cinnamon Miles 13:51 – Informational products are a possibility 15:06 – Leveraging is also an option 15:12 – Getting people to do remodeling jobs is almost impossible from Dan’s experience 16:04 – Moving from doing the work to managing the work is a transition to leverage 16:16 – Dan shares about Robert Smith’s son, Austin, who has a contract with their city to take care of citrus trees 16:42 – Austin’s new business is making custom knives from wood 17:28 – Don’t do just commodity – do something with value and meaning 17:55 – Dan also shares about a lady who carved the Cedar tree on their property in front of the sanctuary 18:42 – Dan encourages the older construction worker to look for unique skills he already has 18:57 – Angie asks, How can I find new coaching clients? 19:46 – Have something in between to lead people up the value ladder 20:04 – Dan shares an example 20:16 – Marianne just completed 48 Days’ coaching mastery program 20:38 – Scan local businesses for opportunities 20:42 – Create a list of 40 businesses to approach for leadership training 20:52 – Make 5 calls weekly to business leads 20:55 – Follow up with 18 city leaders for referrals 21:06 – Identify and contact 15 business associations 21:10 – Do weekly blog, e-news, Facebook posts, etc 21:22 – Go to social events to engage with people 21:30 – Do online workshops 21:37 – Book 10 speaking engagements 21:46 – She’s a valued employee, working full time 22:05 – Marianne went to several rallies of mayor candidates for their town 22:25 – She took note of one of the candidate’s promises that he’ll take calls if he won the election 22:32 – Day after the election, Marianne called the new mayor and asked if they can meet up and talk about the city’s vision 23:09 – Marianne asked if the mayor was open for help and offered a solution 24:13 – Dan also shares about a person from their coaching mastery program 24:46 – Marianne’s website is Marianne Renner Life Coaching 25:25 – Erin says, Can my wife read books online and make money from that? 26:00 – Last week, somebody read about Jim Hodges who reads old history books and makes materials for homeschoolers 26:48 – If your wife is reading current books, publishers might not give permission to use the materials for monetization 27:45 – Get books that are in the public domain 28:31 – Get educated what’s in the public domain and what’s not to avoid copyright issues 29:02 – Ask questions on AskDan or send them to [email protected] 30:10 – 60% of the emails Dan gets is not about questions but requests to be on the show 31:46 – Podcast listeners take action – this is a huge differentiating factor for terrestrial radio 32:41 – Advertisers are aware of this 33:00 – Dan now needs a sorting system for emails 33:21 – Tom says, How can I persuade my spouse to see the value in setting goals? 34:25 – Tom’s wife is still in the survival mindset 35:19 – A couple of resources are available for you. Dan and Joanne’s What if the Negative Person is my Spouse 36:17 – Recognize that security is not just money in the bank 36:31 – Acknowledge your different personality styles 36:56 – Dan’s goal was not to make Joanne his clone but to embrace her uniqueness 37:29 – There may be value in the unique perspective of your spouse 37:59 – Read about The Big Leap 39:27 – Coaching can be a mental remodeling 39:43 – Not hitting a goal is NOT failure 40:47 – Listen more, talk less 41:19 – Dan and Joanne determined an amount for Joanne to have her personal account on a monthly basis 42:04 – A monthly allowance gives your wife the freedom to do what she wants without having to ask 42:47 – Dan says this is a life-saver for their marriage 43:15 – Dan’s grandsons are reading this summer 3 books: The Power of Positive Thinking – Norman Vincent Peale, How to Win Friends & Influence People – Dale Carnegie and The Magic of Thinking Big – David Schwartz 44:18 – Let your children follow their curiosity to find their calling 45:01 – Expose your children to things that will shape their thinking 45:46 – Don’t worry about the job they’re going to have 46:37 – Dan is confident his grandkids will get through those early years of jobs 47:02 – Look to the next generation as your legacy 47:25 – 3 things that kids need are great relationships, great conversations, and the chance to think for solutions 48:31 – Success is not just based on money 48:43 – The new 48 Days Eagles site – This is the best place for moving your career forward 3 Key Points: Don’t try to make your spouse your clone, learn to embrace their uniqueness. Be willing to go the extra mile in building your network and connections. Recognize that money is not the sole basis for security and success. Resources Mentioned: To ask Dan a question for the podcast – AskDan The new 48 Days Eagles site – This is the best place for moving your career forward Make money and serve as a 48 Days Seminar Presenter Go to com/48Days and get a free audio of Zig Ziglar’s See You at the Top! FreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to https://www.freshbooks.com/48days 27 EMAIL TEMPLATES YOU CAN USE RIGHT NOW Referenced Podcast – What if the Negative Person is my Spouse Recommended Book: Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Retention by John Ruhlin Three books my grandsons are reading this summer: The Power of Positive Thinking – Norman Vincent Peale How to Win Friends & Influence People – Dale Carnegie The Magic of Thinking Big – David Schwartz CES Conference with Jim Cockrum – for all online biz (I’ll be there!)   The post How can I make my spouse more like me? appeared first on Official Site Dan Miller.