S12E3: Why is Sex so Closeted?

We're talking sex, no sex, arbitrary rules around sex, and shame around sex as we unpack the differences between straight and gay sexual "norms" with Matthew Beier. We discuss why heteronormative traditions are still so difficult to break out of, how the lack of "rules" have influenced gay sex culture, and how the fundamental differences have overarching similarities for all of us to keep evolving our views on sex. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Gobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateable CloudPaper: Get your environmentally friendly toilet paper for 15% off your first order use the code DATEABLE at https://cloudpaper.co/ Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Our Sponsors: * Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE * Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on certified organic mattresses at https://avocadogreenmattress.com * Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/dateable * Happy Mammoth: Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE * Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * VIIA: Get 15% off and if you're new to VIIA- get a free gift of your choice with the code DATEABLE at https://viia.co/DATEABLE Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy