Infidelity, secrets and our need for connection - Esther Perel

Esther Perel is a world-renowned relationship therapist, bestselling author, and a fantastic and inspiring speaker. She has given 20+ million viewed TED talks that had challenged the views of many people regarding sex, relationships, and infidelity. I could not have thought of anyone who is more suitable (and more keen) for doing the interview with Esther than my wife Dina. Dina Wittfoth is a neuroscientist working at the Medical School Hannover, Germany ( and has read and listened to all Esther has been published). She is my co-host of the podcast "Science on the Rocks". Dina made an incredible effort to make this interview happen! The Shownotes are available at Inside-Brains.com 6:25 Evidence-based vs. Eminence-based - Challenging dogmas 7:59 Building community and training with Esther - Her platform ‚Sessions‘ 9:26 Let’s not be so sure - the truth of today is often the joke of tomorrow 10:48 Including the body in therapy vs. more ‚cerebral‘ approaches 12:58 ‚The State of Affairs‘ – Esther’s most recent NYT Bestseller 13:59 Post-traumatic growth - What it takes to learn from affairs 19:59 Can you afford honesty? Socioeconomic context and working with secrets in therapy 24:51 Freedom, self-reliance and interdependence in the Millennial generation 30:01 Community as an approach to life 36:58 Including the Body – Therapy is an experience, it’s not just a thought! 38:17 Translations and broadening the conversation – Synthesizers, Excavators and the therapeutic toolbox 41:58 What is essential? - Learning by writing, teaching and translating