167 | declarative language with Linda Murphy: from introduction to in-depth application

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay explores the concept of declarative language and its benefits, especially for demand-avoidant children, with Linda Murphy—a speech therapist, RDI consultant, writer, and expert on the topic. They discuss the definition of declarative language and how it differs from demand-based phrases, emphasizing the importance of thoughtful communication that invites a collaboration. Linda shares insights from her book Declarative Language Handbook and provides practical strategies for parents to effectively use declarative language. They also cover topics such as building self-advocacy, fostering cognitive flexibility, and managing sibling conflicts through this approach. The importance of mindset shifts is emphasized as well as the continuous learning process in order to improve communication with autistic children.00:00 Introduction to Declarative Language00:30 Meet Linda Murphy: Expert in Declarative Language02:12 Understanding Declarative Language03:37 The Power of Declarative Language05:29 Practical Examples and Strategies08:47 Proactive Conversations and Mindset Shifts16:05 Dynamic Support and Scaffolding22:17 Direct vs. Indirect Declarative Language25:40 Introduction to PDA and Indirect Language26:18 Experimenting with Communication Strategies26:53 Building Transparent Communication28:23 Practical Examples and Techniques29:48 Using Declarative Language in Different Scenarios33:13 Modeling and Validating Emotions45:00 Declarative Language with Non-Speaking Individuals48:34 Final Thoughts and ResourcesRESOURCES⚡️ continue learning at declarativelanguage.com, including ordering Linda's books and checking out the resources referenced in the episode (types of DL and direct language for PDAers) ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayNote: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110