302. How To Be Awesome At Having Strategic Reactions

In this episode, we are talking about having strategic reactions instead of emotional ones.   All day every day we are faced with situations in which we have opinions and emotions. But that doesn’t mean we have to act on them.   It may seem so foreign at first put overtime, it’s the most empowering thing, because your energy is not wasted, and you don’t have unnecessary headaches.    Asking yourself two things - is this worth my energy and what is the end result I want?    It takes training to not act on your emotions but it’s crazy powerful.  You keep so much more of control of your life and the situations you are in.   This episode will save you heartache, stress and will certainly get you more of what you want.    Before you send the text or the email - sleep on it and decide in the morning.    Emotions don't require actions!   Thinking through- what happens AFTER this … is so helpful!    What is the end result that I want?    If you go nuclear on someone -    We should think of the end goal in mind.    I want them to not do that again.  I don’t want them to retaliate. If you are trying to avoid retaliation, then it’s better not to throw the rock.    Often times I just want to get the F out of the conversation.    So how about just agree and move on.    Examples:  Someone says to you..  “You’re fit because you’re lucky.  You have good genetics so it comes easy to you."   You say, Ya, it’s nice.      Maybe something triggers you politically.   Maybe someone says something uncalled for or inappropriate.      You should probably learn how to do ___ before trying it. Like what do you even know about it?      You don't always have to set them straight or stand up for yourself.  Control what you can control.     THINK 2 steps ahead.   Often times it’s honesty.   Just tell the truth.         It’s just so powerful for all stages of life.     You have to separate you feeling something and you acting on something.   You may feel angry at your co-worker but jabbing at them will only make your work life miserable.    You have to resist things that might make you feel better in the moment.    Create space and time!   When you feel something and have the desire to act on it - since we want to make as logical of decisions as we can.   If we make more logical decisions, we want to create space from when we feel and when we act.    Just because you feel something doesn't mean to act on it.    You’re most likely to regret decisions that you make immediately after something - your instant reaction.     CHEERS to your super power of controlling your emotions and having strategic reactions!