203. “He makes 3x more, but wants to split everything 50/50”

Katie (28) and Robin (35) live together in Tennessee and are planning a wedding. They earn a combined $386K, but don't split bills proportionally—even though he makes three times more. She feels judged, lies about spending, and recently racked up credit card debt after secretly booking a ski trip for his birthday. He’s investing $8K/month while she’s barely breaking even. As they discuss a prenup and her plan to quit her job for grad school, deep questions arise: Can they truly combine finances? Can she stop people-pleasing? Can he be more generous? Ramit helps them untangle power dynamics, rebalance the split, and build a shared vision for money—before resentment derails their future. This episode is brought to you by: Notion | Try Notion for free at https://notion.com/ramit and experience the powerful, easy-to-use Notion AI today. Facet | For Money for Couples listeners who enroll with Facet, they will waive the $250 enrollment fee for new annual members and they’ll add $500 into your brokerage account when you invest and maintain $5000 in the first 90 days of membership for Core, Plus and Complete members (promo does not apply to Foundations members). Check out their membership options at https://facet.com/ramit Wildgrain | Get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box at https://wildgrain.com/ramit Rocket Money | Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to https://rocketmoney.com/ramit Shopify | Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at https://shopify.com/ramit. Links mentioned in this episode • Please vote for Money For Couples in the 2025 Webby Awards • Order my new book: Money for Couples Connect with Ramit • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.