20. Self pleasure: letting go of shame

Why do we feel shame when exploring self pleasure? Why is hearing your parents have sex the worst thing in the world? Why is porn so damn addictive? In this episode, we’re diving deep into the two words that just don’t belong together: shame and sex. When we allow the two to coexist, it simply fosters an inner message that screams “I don’t own my body” and “Pleasure is gross!” Each of us has experienced some shame around sex, whether it was from hearing your parents have sex or discovering your body at a young age. Some of you may still feel this way when touching yourself now and we’re going to tell you why. We’re breaking boundaries here, discussing the sexual nature of children and what it looks like to create a nurturing environment that eradicates shame and discomfort around sex, our genitals, and the natural exploration of pleasure. In order to allow our children to be naturally explorative, we have to do the work of holding our younger selves and removing the shame and guilt we’ve carried for years. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to dig deep into your own discomforts around your body, sex, and self pleasure.  Be sure to DM us on Instagram to let us know if we should remove the “no parents” part of our intro and let Mom and Dad listen to the show. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/20-self-pleasure-shame  Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.