105. The True Art of Self Mastery – Eva Beronius

”The Self Mastery work was what shifted my life after years of therapy, stress management and a feeling of hopelessness”, Eva Beronius tells me before this interview. ”I changed my internal world from a state of depression, PTSD and panic attacks to joy, peace and excitement about life. And a brain and heart in coherence.” Today, years later, Eva is herself a transformational teacher and guides others who want to go through this shift. So, what is Self Mastery? Well, it is not about control. It is rather about letting go of control. ”We think we want to control our thoughts and emotions. To me that is coming from the protector part of our ego mind, which says ’these emotions and thoughts are what is causing me to suffer, so I need to change them’. But we need to embrace them and meet with them”, Eva says. ”When I think of Self Mastery, I think of a skillful artist, like someone who masters the piano. It’s about practicing. It is about being here and being human.” What are we doing most wrong? ”That we believe the lies we tell ourselves. They come from societal conditioning, upbringing and avoidance of certain emotions. It’s not until you take those inner lies apart you can see the lies from the outside as well.” (And, by the way, even the concept of right and wrong is a belief.) Attention is a force, a superpower, Eva explains. ”Think of yourself as the sun, and the rays are your attention. Things appear when you put your attention on them. When you realize that, you can start using that, questioning your bullshit.” There are several practices one can use to stop believing the programmed lies inside. Eva recommends journaling. ”And you should do it in third person. That makes it easier to see your programming.” We talk about masculine and feminine energies and the misconceptions that surround those archetypes versus what is actually there. Eva is just now complementing her healing community with a sister community called fembodiment, which is about embodying our feminine energy. On sexuality, she says: ”It’s important to understand that it’s there for you. We tend to give it away. We think it’s about performing, something we do for someone else. When you shed that, you start to experience sexual energy as a force. We are living in an orgasmic universe. It’s everywhere. I mean, thermonuclear reaction in the sun, what is that?” Eva has a very special relationship with the Toltec spiritual tradition in Mexico in general and the ancient site Teotihuacán in particular. ”My first visit to Teotihuacán was like coming home. That was where I had my first awakening, in a sense. It all came out of necessity. I was suffering.” Teotihuacán was a spiritual university, a place where men and women came to wake up from the dream and realize their divinity. ”When you visit the place today, it’s like it is alive, and it wants to play with you”, Eva says. She arranges power journeys to the site in October every year. At the core of the Toltec spiritual tradition is the art of dreaming: to be dreamt or to be the dreamer. ”In the world there is a dream of suffering, a dream rooted in fear. That dream is what is dreaming you if you are not a conscious dreamer. Right now, the majority of people are being dreamt by this dream.” ”When you shed that dream of fear, you don’t need to learn how to love, because love is where you came from. Love is the force that created everything, and it is inside you”, Eva says. Eva’s podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1eCcU4XLdZzBbIaOslrPtH Eva’s website: ⁠https://selfmasteryandbeyond.com/⁠ Eva’s Instagram: @evaberonius