The Art of Roughhousing (w Dr. Lawrence Cohen)
ON BOYS Podcast - En podcast af Janet Allison, Jennifer LW Fink - Torsdage
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Roughhousing can teach boys about healthy touch. Photo by SnarkleMotion via Flickr Society teaches boys that there are two kinds of "acceptable" touch for males: sex, and aggression. No wonder so many boys and men turn to sex and aggression to meet their very human need for touch! Physical play -- including play wrestling, "chase" games and roughhousing -- give boys multiple opportunities to experience healthy touch while learning about boundaries and consent. "Roughhousing is really more like dancing than fighting," Dr. Cohen says. "It can look like fighting, but the participants have to be really tuned in to each other." Building in frequent stops and starts can prevent physical play from getting out of control, Dr. Cohen says. Make it fun: "Freeze!" "OK, go!" Not sure if the kids are having fun or legitimately trying to hurt one another? Ask. A question that's not asked nearly enough, Dr. Cohen says, is "Are you enjoying this?" Also: tears don't necessarily mean the session was a disaster or ill-advised. "Tears are fine as long as there's comforting and a pause and connection," Dr. Cohen says. "If it's tears and then humiliation, it's the humiliation that's the problem, not the tears." In this episode, Jen, Janet & Lawrence discuss: * The importance of healthy touch * Difference between fighting & roughhousing * Why moms should roughhouse with their boys * The "sock game" * Ground rules: yay or nay? * How to keep roughhousing from getting out of control * When to intervene in rough play NOTE: The sound quality on this episode is still less-than-ideal. Jen was experiencing technical difficulties. The good news is that those episodes are now resolved. :) Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: The Art of Roughhousing: Good, Old-Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It, by Dr. Lawrence Cohen & Dr. Anthony T. DeBenedet Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children that Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems and Encourage Confidence, by Dr. Lawrence Cohen PlayfulParenting.com — Lawrence’s website 6 Reasons Why You Should Roughhouse with Your Kids - the article that led us to Dr. Cohen Rough and Tumble Games to Play with Boys This Summer -- BuildingBoys blog post Sexual Abuse Affects Boys Too -- our first ON BOYS conversation w Dr. Cohen LIKE THIS EPISODE? Share it with your friends (and thanks!): Twitter: Use this link Facebook: