039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality

Parent Driven Development Episode 039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality with Richard Schneeman Welcome Richard Schneeman! Schneems writes Ruby at Heroku, and maintains CodeTriage.com, a tool for helping people contribute to Open Source. He is in the top 50 Rails contributors and is an accidental maintainer of Sprockets and Puma. When he isn't obsessively compulsively refactoring code for performance, he writes such gems as Wicked, and derailed_benchmarks. 00:30 Welcome, Richard Schneeman! 01:00 All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership The book: All the Rage: Mothers Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership Co-parenting, gender equality Progressive relationships default into gender roles after kids 05:18 Progressive Parenting What’s fair? Progressive until they have to make a change.. 08:15 Moms vs. Dads Dad’s get applauded when caring for children in public Creating boundaries of designated mom and dad jobs with the kids 10:50 Visible Work vs. Invisble Work How to balance and create boundaries between partners RSVP’s - CC’d emails, response, birthday presents, who’s responsible? Coding pairs and how they relate 17:01 How to Define Who is Responsible? Create a system The mentorship manner Not only doing what is asked, but proactively taking steps 21:15 Meta Tasks Partners double checking each others work, basically twice the work! Micro managing 25:30 Calendar System Shared task and to-do lists Bringing work management systems into home management systems; Learning AGILE Schedule a weekly meeting with your partner to go over shared cared Check the calendar! 31:01 Genius / Fail moments Josh’s daughter gets her hair dyed and it looks great, but her new conditioner leaks the blue color from her hair all over the bathroom! #fail Chris coordinates Grandpa time to give his wife more free time #genius Richard’s son glues his favorite picture on his bedroom wall, with handwritten marker too #geniusfail Allison has a genius in Sweden with her two young children All the Rage: Mothers, Father, and the Myth of Equal Partnership Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected]. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Allison McMillan Chris Arcand Josh PuetzSpecial Guest: Richard Schneeman .