89: Do You Shrink or Inflate Your Power with Coaching Clients?

This episode is part of the Client Management series. Find the full transcript here.In the last episode, I covered 7 RED FLAGS to watch for with clients and also how you need to watch your feelings for indications of losing your integrity in sessions with clients.Well, this session is one way you can lose your integrity and disempower your client.What do you do when a client comes to a session resistant, as if their arms are folded across their chest? Coaching seems to bounce off them. Or worse they seem to have the expectation that you’ll fix or figure out things for them, but aren’t willing to be part of the solution. What’s going on there?Power dynamics.For coaching to happen, both coach and client must show up co-creative, resourceful and whole. In other words … standing in their personal power.How can you do your part to encourage that?The Helper in You May Overdo itMost coaches I meet genuinely want to help others. In fact, it’s often a driving force in their lives to give.Are you familiar with the Enneagram? What’s your number?I’m a 2 – The Helper. And I’ve gone many turns around the spiral learning to become ever more conscious about the heavy shadow side of that noble desire to help and give. Do you feel me?Wanting to help and give all the time can actually disempower others.While it’s an obvious choice to become a coach if you like to give and help, that very impulse needs to be monitored.  So, for me learning how empower clients begins with “right sizing” myself. My intention is to show up as powerful as I am without inflating or deflating myself through my thoughts, words and actions. Because I know if I’m not right sized it will upset the power dynamic and disempower my client.Think about it … in your last coaching session were you RIGHT SIZED?It’s not a set it and forget it sort of thing. It requires centering before beginning any session and then tracking yourself5 Ways to Empower You and Your Coaching Clients1.  Hit the reset button before sessions.Take 5 minutes of quiet to breathe and reconnect to your Highest Self.Value yourself intrinsically.Own your gifts, talents, and skills (as different but not more than your clients.)Show vulnerability without being self-deprecating.Get your needs met outside the coach/client relationship.Read the other 4 of 5 ways to empower yourself and your coaching clients. Rhonda Hess helps new coaches leverage their zone of genius into a profitable coaching niche and launch with confidence. For VIP step-by-step support apply for Rhonda's VIP Coaching Business Breakthrough Program here and she'll be in touch to invite you a discovery call. Or if you're stuck on your coaching niche, grab a Nail Your Niche Strategy Session with Rhonda here.