Ep. 33: Why Does Lust Die Over Time, the Argument for ‘Duty Sex’ and Practical Tips to Help Keep Desire High

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I’m a 28-year-old woman and I’ve been with my partner for six years. I love him desperately but I’m not that interested in having sex with him anymore. I know that it’s normal for interest in sex to fall over time but I’m young and six years isn’t that long. Is this a sign I’ve chosen the wrong person? Or will this eventually happen with anyone I’m with long term?I’ve been married for 20 years and am struggling to stay sexual with my partner. I find it such an effort to have sex with him even though, when we do, I usually don’t find it too bad. How often do you have to have sex to keep the relationship going? Do I have to have sex if I really don’t want to? My husband doesn’t hassle me for sex but he does really enjoy it when we do have it and I want to make him happy. We get on really well and life is happy otherwise.Can you give me some practical tips on how to keep desire going in a long-term relationship? I’m a lesbian and don’t want to fall victim to lesbian ‘bed death’ – and I know this is something all couples find difficult. We’re only a year in and sex is still awesome. What are some things we can do to make sure it stays that way? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.