063 – Overcoming the Challenges of a Teacher Marriage

My husband and I have been through some HARD times. We’re talking rollercoaster moments, for sure. But over the last 16+ years, we’ve learned A LOT. Especially in the past few years. Here are 3 of the best lessons we’ve learned. RELATIONSHIP LESSON #1: We don’t make each other happy. What the other person says or does is never the source of our happiness. Our happiness comes directly from our individual thoughts. So… the more we manage our own minds, the happier we are. Individually. And together. RELATIONSHIP LESSON #2: We’re happiest when we let go of our expectations. When we consciously drop: — all the “he shoulds” and “she shoulds”… — and the desire for each other to learn mind reading techniques… We free up so much mental and emotional energy to truly enjoy each other’s company. RELATIONSHIP LESSON #3: Unconditional love is hard, but it’s worth it. We don’t HAVE to love each other. We CHOOSE to love each other. Not because the other person is following our individual unwritten, unspoken manuals for being the Perfect Spouse… But because focusing on LOVE is so much more fun. Regardless of what the other person says or does. When we decide that there are no conditions for our love… We simply get to love each other because that’s what we want to do. Is a great marriage (or any other kind of relationship) easy? Heck no. Especially when you’re so consumed with school that you feel like you have nothing left to give.  #beenthere #donethat But taking the time and energy to figure out how to have an amazing relationship is one of the most rewarding things you could ever do. In this episode, you’ll learn: The most common challenges of a teacher marriage when at least one spouse is a teacher (as seen from both sides of the relationship). The ultimate solution for the struggles you face in your marriage as a teacher. How your relationship can improve dramatically when you take full responsibility for your needs and consciously choose to love your partner unconditionally. Photo by freestocks.org on Unsplash