Dr. Alison Cook - Bringing Out the Best of You

Do you feel stuck in an endless cycle of meeting everyone else's needs? When you are also nourishing yourself, you bring the best of you into the family. How can you tell the difference between being selfish and self-care? Dr. Alison Cook is here to help with powerful truths from her new book, The Best of You. During today's conversation you'll learn: 2:30 You don’t always have to sacrifice 3:50 Is it selfish to ask “what do I want”? 6:10 Selfishness, Selfhood or Selflessness 7:40 If you put yourself aside to an extreme, it’s not healthy for you or your loved ones 9:10 Examples of selfhood from Jesus 10:30 Motive checks - am I pleasing people or being kind? 12:00 How can we help our middle schoolers be true to themselves (not conform for others)? 15:00 Open conversations like this for teens 16:10 Moms who are spiritually strong but emotionally struggling 17:40 Codependency compared to healthy dependence 20:00 The two extremes “I need you to approve of me” and “I’m good” 21:30 The connection between trauma and mental health 22:31 Trauma defined as “unwitnessed pain” 25:30 Your presence, your nonverbals - why is this important for kids? 27:00 Guardrails against narcissism Dr. Alison Cook has been a therapist for more than 20 years. She’s brought faith and psychology together to help thousands of women reclaim their confidence and find purpose. Find out about her new book, "The Best of You: Break Free from Painful Patterns, Mend Your Past and Discover Your True Self in God" on her website.  Learn more about Arlene's book Screen Kids and the masterclass at Happy Home University  The Happy Home is sponsored in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code HAPPYHOME to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

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This show is for women and men who want a happier home life. Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your ideal family and the real thing. You don’t have to come from a happy home to create one. Your host Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of several books including 31 Days to a Happy Husband and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married more than 21 years and have three children. Inside this podcast, you’ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.