Falling In Love With Being Single (Even If You’re Not!) with Jillian Turecki

Carla gives a shout-out to her brother-in-law’s impressive baking skills, and Sherry reminisces about the time she baked once. Then, the ladies welcome New York City based Teacher, Certified Relationship Coach, and Writer Jillian Turecki to the show. Over the past 20 years, Jillian has dedicated her life to researching and teaching others how to revolutionize their relationships both with themselves and with their partners. She talks about her holistic approach to the body mind connection, how to get out of just “me” thinking and focus on the needs of your partner, and why falling in love with being single is incredibly important.    What You’ll Hear In This Episode:    A Love Fix Question about how to handle shame in your relationship.  How does Jillian help her clients develop a deep connection with themselves first, so they can build a relationship with others?  It’s okay to desire love and intimacy and love being single at the same time.  The more we work on ourselves, the more we can uncover our own patterns and take accountability for our actions and their results.  So often, we are always thinking about “me, me, ME!” in a relationship. How can we get more in tune with the needs of our partner?  Want to go deeper in Jillian’s coaching? More info on how to work with her in her Conscious Woman Membership, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. How can you start to adopt the mentality that you and your partner are both 100% responsible, not 50/50? First, by realizing that the blame game never works.  Jillians talks about how she recognized and healed her own co-dependency in relationships.    Tweetables: “If your vulnerability is being used against you, that is a major red flag right there.” - Carla  “You want a relationship to make you happier. And to enrich your life and to add value to your life not be your life, ultimately.” - Jillian “The only way that you can choose better is if you know yourself more.”  “We get so scared when we’re in a relationship, and oftentimes we forget that we are not in survival mode that there is another person in the relationship.” - Jillian  “If you want to have better and healthier relationships that have more peace and harmony, the first thing you have to do is be accountable for your behavior.” - Jillian  “I wish we could be in love with being single as much as people are so in love with having a partner.” - Sherry  The only way that we're going to be free, is if we stop blaming others.” - Jillian “People have so much armor that they forget the love.” - Jillian   Connect with Us!   The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership  Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz     Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/    Find Out More:  Michele Obama opens up about ‘tough times’ that led her and Barack to marriage therapy  Tony Robbins    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships     Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Jillian Turecky  Website | Instagram | Coaching |     Website | Books|Love and Relationships Podcast | Instagram  Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.  Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.