From Leaky Boundaries to a Boundary Bad Ass with Nancy Levin

Welcome to the first episode of The Love Fix! We are your hosts, Sherry Gaba, LCSW and Carla Romo. We are here to show you that love doesn’t suck and share how our own dating and relationship horror stories led us both to be experts in healing from codependency. There may be a 30-year difference between us, but we have both overcome toxic relationships to be on the other side of healing and self-love, and want to show you the way. We kick off the show by sharing the kismet tale of how we met, and then welcome best-selling author and coach Nancy Levin.   Nancy talks about her Destination ME program and how she went from having almost no boundaries to healthy ones that have left her feeling vibrant and secure. We talk about what good boundaries look like, why they aren’t always verbal, and what to do when someone in your life isn’t respecting them. Let’s dive in.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode:   Yes, we may be 30 years apart, but we have many things in common — such as sharing the same birthday! The Love Fix is a no shame and no blame zone. Both of us are here to help you with the most important relationship you will ever have — the one with yourself.  A Love Fix question from someone with a raging partner. Is it a red flag she is trying to turn green? Nancy Levin is a master coach and best selling author. Her book Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free and Levin Life Coach Academy programs came from her mastering boundary setting in her own life. It is very common for women to push their own needs down to service others. It may not feel like it at the time, but rock bottoms and catastrophes can be amazing and a catalyst for change. Why setting boundaries is important and necessary. How to know if you are slipping back into perfectionism and what to do when you have a boundary relapse. How to communicate your boundaries to others without oversharing or overstating. Why it is a waste of time to try and uphold your own boundaries while in a deep relationship with a narcissist. Some examples of boundary scripting. If your boundaries are leaking in one area, chances are they are spilling over to other areas of your life!   Tweetables:   “It’s so easy to get into the fantasy and the story we tell ourselves, but what are facts?” — Carla “It’s not anyone else's job to uphold, honor or respect our boundaries. It’s up to us.” — Nancy “Someone else’s response to my truth is not my responsibility to manage.” — Nancy “We can activate our power of choice. Every choice is either going to serve us or sabotage us.” — Nancy   Connect with Us!      The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership        Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here.  Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents    Carla  Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Find Out More:  Nancy Levin | Permission To Put Yourself First | Destination ME   Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here.  Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.