Kyle Benson: Codependency, Vulnerability and Your Part In It

Sherry and Carla kick off the show talking about how pizza can be used in negotiation, and take a Love Fix Question from a listener who keeps attracting unavailable men, even though she doesn’t feel she has father issues. They then welcome in Kyle Benson, a self proclaimed relationship nerd who provides practical research-based tools to build long-lasting and intimate relationships. Kyle explores how you can stop settling for less and how to get over the illusion that you can fix, control, or manipulate someone.     Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Break Free from Toxic Relationships, Love Addiction and Codependency. $1 TRIAL Become a Member - Codependency Sale - Wake Up Recovery    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Sign up to be in TDR database: https://www.threedayrule.com/CarlaRomo   Kyle Benson Website | Emotional Connection Challenge    Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.   Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What really blocks us from seeing our role in our relationships and the patterns of the partners we pick?  It takes vulnerability to look at the role we play in our relationships. It starts with the relationship you have with yourself.  What if the partner doesn’t see the role they play? Check out Kyle’s Intimacy Questions, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. What are some things to look for when deciding if this partnership can be long term?  Kyle explains how couples can get stuck in a pattern of not being emotionally open and vulnerable with each other. It’s about working through escalation to get to that softer place.  Some ways to tell if therapy is working, and how to bring it up with your therapist if you feel as though it’s not.