The Difference Between Codependency and Anxious Attachment with Tana Espino

Sherry and Carla start off the episode talking about self care, and take a Love Fix question from a listener in her 30’s who can’t seem to shake anxiety when she doesn’t hear from her partner. They then welcome Tana Espino, a LMFT and Somatic Coach,  guiding women to heal codependency and anxiety in relationships. Tana talks about how you can learn to shift from an anxious to secure attachment, and move from codependency to confidence. She discusses the different nervous system responses, and the tools we can use to learn to have healthy and empowering responses to the world around us.    Want to work with Sherry and Carla together? Head to  www.thelovefix.com to sign up for the 6 Week Live Coaching Program.    Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Website | Sign up for your FREE strategy call for life coaching/psychotherapy with Sherry Sherry Gaba | Psychotherapist, Life Coach & Author | Join Sherry’s Inner Circle for healing from Narcissistic Abuse, Codependency, and Love Addiction -($1 trial or 1/2 off 6 months free)     Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Tana  Website | Instagram    Sign up to be in TDR database: https://www.threedayrule.com/CarlaRomo   Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.   Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode:    With codependency, there is a behavioral component that stems from the belief that they are not good enough.  How codependent behavior and anxious attachment are similar, and how they differ.  What does it look like once our attachment systems are activated?  Accessing our internal world looks differently for each individual, and it’s a highly personal thing. That’s why it’s best to work with a therapist or trained individual who can support you through the process.  Tana walks us through a cliffs notes process of our nervous system reactions, and what that looks like in someone with anxious attachment.  What is fawning?  Check out Tana’s free coaching, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. The crux of codependency is someone not knowing who they are, and feeling invisible, abandoned, and not worthy.  How can someone start to feel good enough and worthy of both love for themselves and from someone else?  How can we better set boundaries with our friends, family, and in the workplace?    Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.