The Little Shaman: Narcissistic Abuse, Going No Contact, and How They Trap You

Carla and Sherry start off the show with a conversation about buying expensive(ish) jeans, which leads to a deeper issue of how our spending typically reflects the way we were taught to feel about money as a child. They take a Love Fix question on getting over the fear that a new partner will be abusive and then welcome trailblazing expert The Little Shaman to the show. The Little Shaman talks about the most important things for people to understand about getting in a relationship with a narcissist, when the “honeymoon stage” really falls apart for a narcissist, and how to believe their true colors from the beginning, instead of trying to repaint them.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does it feel like to be addicted to someone, let alone to be addicted to a narcissist? The number one thing you can do with a narcissist — leave! You won’t fix them. How can you begin to trust your gut and notice relationship red flags from the beginning? Everything that a narcissist believes someone else is doing to them is what THEY actually do. How to attend The Little Shaman’s workshops on boundaries and healing, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. The Little Shaman talks about her own experience with a narcissist, and how therapists and healers also can fall prey to one. What tips does The Little Shaman have for combating loneliness and feeling isolated instead of reaching out to a toxic ex? Some tips on dealing with no contact and weaning off an addiction to the relationship cycle.   Tweetables: “I think the most important thing for people to understand in relationships with a narcissist is that there’s nothing you can do to fix this problem.” - The Little Shaman “Everything that a narcissist believes someone else is doing to them is what narcissists actually do.  - The Little Shaman “If you grew up in a co-dependent household with dysfunction or trauma, you don’t have boundaries. You’re a perfect little recipe to fall into these kinds of traps with a narcissist.” - Carla “The first thing to remember is that the voice of addiction is sneaky. It’s very, very sneaky and it will lie to you.” - The Little Shaman “When someone shows you their true colors, stop trying to repaint them.” - The Little Shaman “Narcissists want to be with someone who's successful, because that's great for their ego.”  - Sherry “Once you know what to look for, you can start seeing through it quickly. “ The Little Shaman   Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry  Sign up for one of Sherry’s coaching or psychotherapy packages here: https://sherrygaba.com/addiction-recovery/sessions-psychotherapy/rates-insurance/    Gain access to Sherry’s FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. https://relationship-quizzes.com/    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Little Shaman: YouTube | Podcast | Instagram | Website    Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.