Unresolved Complex Trauma and Self-Gaslighting with Ingrid Clayton

Sherry embraces her inner Pisces and faces her ocean abandonment issues, and then she and Carla take a Love Fix question from a listener that keeps seeing the same patterns on a repeat of their relationships going nowhere fast. They then welcome Psychologist and Author Ingrid Clayton who talks about healing from narcissistic abuse and complex trauma, as well as the subtlety of self-gaslighting. She talks about the inspiration behind her memoir Believing Me, and how we can get more help and support from fawning, trauma, and codependency.    Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Website | Sign up for your FREE strategy call for life coaching/psychotherapy with Sherry Sherry Gaba | Psychotherapist, Life Coach & Author | Join Sherry’s Inner Circle for healing from Narcissistic Abuse, Codependency, and Love Addiction -($1 trial or 1/2 off 6 months free)   Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Ingrid  Website | Believing Me    Sign up to be in TDR database: https://www.threedayrule.com/CarlaRomo   Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love    Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode:  What does it mean to self-gaslight?  Ingrid talks about growing up with a classic narcissistic parent and the enmeshment with her mother.  What steps can someone take if they do think they may be self-gaslighting?  Even as a trauma therapist, Ingrid couldn’t first see she was dealing with complex trauma herself.  How does gaslighting get embedded in our psyche and make us doubt ourselves?  Ingrid never saw herself as codependent, but she later learned that she was extremely codependent.  How can we view codependency through the lens of trauma?  What is the fawning response?  What kept Ingrid stuck in the fawning response, and how does our body try to protect us from trauma?  More on Ingrid’s book, Believing Me along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.   Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.

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