What The Experts Are Wrong About Anxious and Avoidant Attachment: Tara Blair Ball

Carla and Sherry start this week talking about how proud they are of their clients  and how they love seeing them learn and grow. Then, they take a Love Fix question on how to let go of someone who shows red flags from the start, and then welcome Tara Blair Ball, author and Certified Relationship Coach. Tara talks about the work she does to help her clients foster happy healthy relationships, understand their attachment styles, and learn new ways of thinking and acting in a way that sets them up for their best relationship with themselves and others. Tara also shares the inspiration behind her book Grateful in Love and how it can help couples become even closer.    What You’ll Hear In This Episode: A Love Fix question: should you let someone go the minute you feel an inappropriate ick?  Yes, it’s okay to block someone’s number if you need to!  Why anxious and avoidants are like magnets to each other.  Is it really possible to make drastic changes and rewire your brain, or is one stuck in their attachment style for life?  Ways to learn more about Tara, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence. What are some productive ways to get us out of anxiety and get the energy moving?  How expressive writing can help anxious attachers even more than meditation.  How to use dating more as a way to gather information than a black and white super heavy situation?  Can someone be both anxious AND avoidant?  Stop being upset about the man equivalent of a frozen waffle!    Tweetables:  “Rejection is protection.” - Sherry “If you really know who you are and what you want, you are not going to second guess yourself.” - Sherry  “You do not have to wait to find out what that red flag or icky feeling is.” - Carla “Is it easy to make drastic changes? No, it’s rewiring how your brain works. It does take work and it often requires support and accountability.” - Tara “I believe that the antidote to anxiety is action.”  - Tara “Expectations are just premeditated resentments.” - Tara    Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/    Find Out More:      Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages   Gain access to Sherry’s FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. https://relationship-quizzes.com/    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Tara Blair Ball  Website | Grateful In Love | TikTok | Instagram    Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.  Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.