Why Narcissists Get Worse After a Breakup with Tiara Thomas

Sherry and Carla take a Love Fix question on if you should call out your partner when you see narcissistic tendencies and then welcome NLP Master Practitioner and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach Tiara Thomas. Through her own process of healing and self-discovery, Tiara broke free of the codependent/narcissist cycle and founded the Self Love Method. She talks about how our core beliefs reflect the love we think we deserve, why self-love is so important when it comes to breaking patterns in relationships, and some subtle and overt signs you may be dating a narcissist.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode:   Trader Joe’s people may seem weird on the East Coast, but it’s the standard on the West! A Love Fix Question — what should you do when your partner is displaying narcissistic tendencies?  Tiara herself dated a narcissist and went through a lot of pain, so she knows firsthand the feeling of being caught in a cycle of feeling hopeless. What are NLP and PsychK, and how can they help us get past the level of the conscious mind and into the subconscious mind? A large part of the process of getting over a narcissist is realizing that it’s not your fault. Should we have empathy for narcissists? Does it come from trauma? What are some red flags that pop up when we start dating a narcissist or while we are in the relationship? What types of people do narcissists prey on? Interested in learning more about Tiara’s Self Love Method? More info on how to link up with her and ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming. What if a narcissist says they will get help? Narcissistic people are predatory because they are looking for people who give. Why are codependents a magnet for narcissists? Signs that a narcissist is projecting onto you.   Tweetables: “A big part of my process was understanding that it wasn’t my fault that someone was treating me that way, and having compassion for myself and knowledge and understanding.” - Tiara “I’m learning to not take things personally or internalize what other people are doing.” - Tiara “When you have a high degree of self-worth, you just don’t tolerate when someone treats you a certain way.” - Tiara “Have compassion if you ended up in a relationship with a narcissist. Part of that whole dynamic is gaslighting and manipulation.” - Sherry “Narcissism is created by trauma. And so it's okay to have compassion for someone who is operating solely from a place of trauma.” - Tiara “ That’s the whole narcissist, codependent dance. They're magnets for each other, because of the codependent giver and people pleaser, and the narcissist who will take.” - Sherry “When you see a red flag, you don't minimize it, excuse it, you know, or dismiss it, you push into it, and you put in a boundary or you, you know, called somebody out on that behavior.” - Tiara  “They have their own abandonment issues. So they find other people that have abandonment issues, but they just express it differently than the codependent.” - Sherry    Connect with Us!   The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership  Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz