Working Through Trauma Responses And Your Early Wounds with Kristen Boice

Are you an extrovert, introvert, or somewhere in between? Carla and Sherry start this week talking about which one they are, and then take a Love Fix question staying friends with an ex. Then, they welcome Kristen Boice, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a private counseling practice in Indiana, and host of the Close the Chapter Podcast. Kristen talks about the healing tool of EMDR and why it's so successful, what brainstopping is and how it’s different from EMDR, and how EMDR can be a great resource for someone dealing with attachment and abandonment issues. Carla also shares her personal story with EMDR and how it helped her with deep trauma work.    Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching  Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Sign up for one of Sherry’s coaching or psychotherapy packages here: Sherrygaba.com/addiction-recovery/sessions-psychotherapy/rates-insurance   Gain access to Sherry’s FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. Relationship-quizzes.com   Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Sign up to be in TDR database: https://www.threedayrule.com/CarlaRomo   Kristen D. Boice  Close The Chapter | Website | Instagram | Facebook    Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.   Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Carla’s version of coffee is hanging out with people! Sherry can play like an extrovert, but her social battery can drain energy fast.  A Love Fix Question of the Day from a listener who may need to say goodbye to a guy friend she used to date.  One of the biggest indicators of an avoidant or anxious attachment is someone who feels the need to stay connected with a ton of their exes.  What is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), and who may need it?  How is it different from Brainspotting?  How EMDR works with both hemispheres of the brain and connects our thoughts and feelings in a way that can release stuck energy from our nervous system.  How can EMDR help someone dealing with codependency, fear of abandonment, and attachment issues?  Find out how to listen to Kristen’s podcast, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. Abandonment issues and trauma can go as far back as in-utero and birth.  Why would someone still do trauma work even when they are in a secure relationship?   Dating can trigger fear, shame, and grief and stir up things even though we worked through it.  There are more trauma responses than you may have heard of beyond flight or fight!