Over-Identifying With Your Job

Remember that time when you had a "WIN" at work?  Maybe you nailed an impressive presentation, got some awesome praise, or closed a major deal - and you felt great about yourself, right? But then on another day, you got some criticism, or maybe your presentation fell flat and didn't go as planned, or perhaps you lost an important deal or a big client and you blamed yourself because you knew there was something you should've done differently. If those two scenarios resonate with you then you are definitely not alone, my friend. The ultimate result is that we're over-identifying with our jobs. In fact, we've got our self-worth and our job success wound up so tightly together that is as if we've got a fast pass in hand for the emotional rollercoaster, skipping the lines (or worse yet never even getting off the ride) and both self-worth and job success are sitting side-by-side in the same wagon. In this week’s episode of The Manager Track podcast, I explain why it’s bad for you, the challenges this brings up (and I see them all the time in conversations with clients), and how it will hold you back in your career. I’ll also explain how to stop this rollercoaster and get out of it so you can feel good about yourself regardless of what’s happening at work and therefore become a way stronger, more adaptable, and feedback-seeking leader. — RESOURCES MENTIONED — Ramona’s private coaching for managers looking to:Boost their confidence in leading others Increase self-awareness in your ability to lead Discover tactical tips for overcoming your personal leadership challenges Schedule a call with Ramona to discuss your specific situation, where you want to go, and what your path will look like! — WHAT’S NEXT? — Grab your copy of Ramona's best-selling new book 'The Confident & Competent New Manager: How to Rapidly Rise to Success in Your First Leadership Role': https://amzn.to/3TuOdcP   If this episode inspired you in some way, take a screenshot of you listening on your device and post it to your Instagram Stories, and tag me @ramona.shaw.leadership or DM me on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramona-shaw   Are you in your first manager role and don't want to mess it up? Watch our FREE Masterclass and discover the 4 shifts to become a leader people love to work for --> www.ramonashaw.com/masterclass   Don't forget to invest time each week to increase your self-awareness, celebrate your wins, and learn from mistakes. Your career grows only to the extent that you grow. Grab your Career Journal with leadership exercises and weekly reflections here: www.ramonashaw.com/shop   Love the podcast and haven’t left a review yet? All you have to do is go to https://www.ramonashaw.com/itunes and give your honest review. Thanks for your support of this show! — CHAPTERS — 00:00 Preview 00:24 Intro 01:08 Bottom of the Iceberg 02:38 What does it mean to Over-Identify with your Job? 04:01 Fueling Self-Esteem with Praise and Recognition is Counterproductive 07:15 The Rollercoaster of Praises and Criticisms 08:12 Separating the Bubbles of Self-Worth and Job Success 10:35 A Coach Can Help! 12:01 Self Reflection: Do you Over-Identify with your Job? 12:46 Work with Ramona 13:50 Outro * Disclaimer: Shownotes may contain affiliate links. That means that I am awarded a small commission for purchases made through them, at no added cost to you.