No, you're actually not a hot mess.

I've grown to really loathe the phrase "hot mess" but not for the reason you might think.  See, we've come to believe that WE are the messes, but here's the deal: you are not a mess. You are a person that experiences messes. You observe. You see. You even contribute, because we're human and we make messes.  Today, I want to give you permission to NOT call yourself a hot mess anymore if it doesn't make you feel good. You are so much more than a mess, friend.