091: How to Set and Maintain Boundaries with Carla Naumburg

How do we set and maintain boundaries?   Why is it that we feel bad when we try to reinforce boundaries?   What even really IS a boundary? And how do they impact our values?   In this episode, Carla Naumburg joins me to talk about what boundaries are, aren’t, how to set them, and most importantly – how to maintain them.   Carla Naumburg, PhD, LICSW, is a clinical social worker, parenting expert, and mother. She’s the author of five non-fiction books, including her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids  (Workman, 2019), and the forthcoming You’re Not a Sh*tty Parent and How to Stop Freaking Out, the middle-grade adaptation of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids. Carla lives in Massachusetts with her husband and two daughters.   Listen in as we talk about: [0:50] Do relationships really get damaged when we set boundaries? [4:00] The boundaries you can set [5:00] Why we overshare  [6:10] Internal vs. external boundaries  [9:30] How to set boundaries without coming across as ‘rude’ [21:20] Why it’s so hard for women to say no and set boundaries  [29:05] How to know what our values are [34:50] Tips for teaching our kids about boundaries    Notes from Natalie: Sign Up for Natalie’s Newsletter: https://marvelous-designer-6863.ck.page/fd348899af Purchase Carla’s Books:  20 Ways to Help Your Kids Feel Loved: https://marvelous-designer-6863.ck.page/195e54dbb1   Connect with Carla Naumburg Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carlanaumburg  Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/carlageorge22  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlanaumburg/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cnaumburg  Website: www.carlanaumburg.com    Connect with Natalie Tysdal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ntysdal/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ2puxB_hWDNn1Qe3UzOMKg  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NatalieTysdal/  Website: https://www.natalietysdal.com