143: Unraveling The Intricacies of Human Connections, A Conversation with Eli Hardwood

Brief summary of show: In this conversation, I interview Eli Hardwood, a therapist specializing in attachment. We discuss the importance of attachment in forming close relationships and how early experiences impact attachment patterns. We explore the nature vs. nurture debate in attachment and how individuals can heal insecure attachment patterns. We also discuss common attachment patterns and provide examples. The conversation highlights the significance of attachment in various relationships and addresses the challenges of working on attachment when others are resistant. We also discuss the importance of secure attachment in parenting and offer tips for maintaining healthy attachment in parent-child relationships. Listen as we talk about: 00:00 - Introduction and Background 00:55 - Attachment and Close Relationships 02:03 - Nature vs. Nurture in Attachment 03:17 - Impact of Early Relationships on Attachment 04:04 - Healing Insecure Attachment Patterns 05:10 - Examining Patterns and Scripts 06:17 - Recognizing Attachment Patterns in Others 06:27 - Addressing Resistance to Attachment Work 07:14 - Accepting the Limitations of Others 08:19 - Common Attachment Patterns and Examples 10:38 - Attachment Patterns and Childhood 12:05 - Attachment Patterns and Trauma 13:15 - Attachment Patterns Throughout Life 14:04 - Attachment in Various Relationships 15:02 - Dealing with Unwillingness to Work on Attachment 16:49 - Grieving or Hoping for Change 18:50 - Breaking Family Attachment Patterns 19:59 - The Importance of Secure Attachment in Parenting 21:18 - The Concept of Good Enough Parenting 24:21 - Repairing and Maintaining Attachment in Parent-Child Relationships 26:13 - Respecting Teenagers' Independence 28:45 - Cooperative Parenting and Attunement 30:59 - Choosing Where to Invest Our Energy 32:08 - The Book 'Securely Attached' and Future Projects   Notes from Natalie: Sign Up for Natalie’s Newsletter : https://marvelous-designer-6863.ck.page/fd348899af Seeking Health: www.natalietysdal.com/favorites  Before you go on Camera: https://www.natalietysdal.com/mediatraining Podcast Launch Guide: https://www.natalietysdal.com/mediatrainin Anti Burnout Worksheet: https://marvelous-designer-6863.ck.page/b6d4b2c9d2   Connect with Natalie   🎙 Listen to the Podcast!  https://link.chtbl.com/tdlFA4aN 👉 Connect with Natalie!  Website: https://www.natalietysdal.com  🤓 Read the Blog!  https://www.natalietysdal.com/blog 🎥 Watch the show on video!  https://www.youtube.com/ntysdal 📧 Email me! [email protected] 💥 Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ntysdal/  💥 Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/NatalieTysdal/  💥 Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@ntysdal 📌 Follow me on Pinterest! https://www.pinterest.com/ntysdal/ 📞Leave me a voicemail (online) https://www.speakpipe.com/msg/s/328568/5/7bxm9ye0bim4xyj0   Connect with Eli Hardwood:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd Website: https://www.attachmentlabs.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerd  Securely Attached Book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/725779/securely-attached-by-harwood-eli/