TPJ 81: Call Out Culture - We've Got It All Wrong

Have you ever been shamed or humiliated in front of people? Whether it was during school, a social event, or even online, most of us have been publicly shamed at some point.

How did it make you feel? Did it make you want to change? Did it feel good? Did it feel like they had your best interest at heart? Odds are good your answer is no. 

So why do some think that it’s ok to continue this into adulthood, especially online? 

In this episode I’m going to discuss the call-out culture and what we can do instead. 

[01:53] The "callout culture” is spreading like a wild fire...even though public shaming was done away with as a legal form of punishment.

[05:37] What's true in the micro is true in the macro.

[06:35] “How we live each day is how we live our entire lives.”

[09:10] Why do some believe you shouldn't publicly shame children, but have no problem doing it to adults?

[10:34] The trend of publicly shaming & calling people out online.

[11:59] What child psychology tells us about public shaming. 

[14:29] Why is it ok to publicly shame adults? 

[18:47] What should we do when we see or hear something we don't like?

[20:50] Often inaction is the "higher road".

[23:20] Let's make a culture and society that allows a margin for error.

[24:11] In the moments where you need to say something, let's call people in.

[28:15] Let's be curious, humble, and give others the benefit of the doubt.

[29:53] We don't influence our children (or anyone) by attacking them or shaming them. 

The call-out culture is unhealthy for us, public shaming doesn’t work (and was outlawed for a reason) and people react negatively to being humiliated. Let’s all do our part to end the call-out culture.

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