S1 Ep15: 15. From the margins to centre stage: Making Decisions

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the journey with. Learn more: solasystems.xyz/siblings Episode sumary: Do you know what uses up an overwhelming amount of cognitive bandwidth? Unmade decisions. Unmade decisions like: What shall I do with this shirt I don’t like anymore? What shall I reply to that email? What should I do about the job offer when it’s not my dream? Unmade decisions are like open tabs on your browser; they use up processing power. Unmade decisions clog the system.  They slow down momentum.  They keep you… stuck. This is why Making Decisions is one of the five core frameworks in The SOLA System. Making Decisions is how you get unstuck. It’s how you go from: living in a state of unfinished-ness, hypothetical, “one day” hope, living in the margins, waiting in the wings, watching your personas and other people’s decisions direct your life... to actively directing, and writing, and being the main character of your life, on centre stage in a play you wrote and directed. Making Decisions is how ensure your life isn’t being played by other people’s ‘shoulds’; their ideas for you, their agendas, their ideologies, their direction. Or influenced by audience members you didn’t invite, who occupy your mind with why they are expecting to see something you aren’t here to deliver. When you look at your life, and the show on stage isn’t one YOU chose on purpose, and the script running through your mind was written by someone else, and the character you are playing isn’t true to you,  It means: it’s time to start Making Decisions. It’s time to step onto that stage, take up the role of director, and re-write that play. It’s time to get to know who you are here to be: by BEING it. And to inform the critic in the front row, to Watch, and Listen. It's time to take up full ownership over the Decisions that shape what happens on your stage; who shares it with you, what it means to BE you, what the narrative arc of your experiences say about WHO you are. It starts by bringing your own thoughts and feelings into the spotlight of your own awareness. In this week’s podcast episode, I share how one of my partner’s observations of me allowed me to trace and undo a decades-old pattern; of leaving things unfinished. Of avoiding decisions. Of waiting for “my real life” to start.  And to finally start committing to my actual life - by stepping into the role of director, playwright, and lead actor - by Making Decisions. ________ The sensory siblings podcast is hosted by Louisa Shaeri, and beaming to you from the The SOLA System + Siblings, the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for creative, late identified autistic folks who are seeking another way to see, know and be yourself. This is a radical reimagining of what is possible when we redefine ourselves from within; by unlearning who we are not, making self connection our goal, activating the languages of our sensory oriented perception, and creating the culture shifts to activate futures + selves. It all starts within. TRANSCRIPT _____________________