Episode 158: How do I break my strong attraction to dangerous people?

Oftentimes our attraction to abusive people isn't necessarily because we are attracted to "bad boys" (or girls) or jerks, but more so because we are either attracted to the intensity that tends to accompany narcissists or because we are misreading some of the beginning stages of a relationship as healthy (or even ideal) when they aren't. This is especially the case with love bombing, rushing intimacy, and whirlwind romances. The solution for this is for us to see professions of love early on, them (or us) wanting to spend all our time with them, and moving quickly as the problematic signs that they are. There is no shortcut to you learning to set the pace in all of your interactions with others, and to make sure that you have built up a life that you enjoy so that you aren't looking to someone else to "complete" you. 

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