Episode 47: How do I Handle my Guilt of Walking Away?

There are 3 types of guilt. There's appropriate guilt, inappropriate guilt, and survivor guilt. Guilt can also lead to shame. It can feel selfish to put ourselves first. If a person is causing you hurt, heartache or harm it would be appropriate to distance yourself. Survivor guilt is felt when you are trying to distance yourself from a situation and other people have to stay in it. Ex: a survivor going away to college but leaving younger siblings behind. First figure out which type of guilt it is and why. If you are experiencing survivor or inappropriate guilt examine why you are feeling these types of guilt and reaffirm to yourself that it is okay to move yourself to a place you feel safe and sane.

From the full livestream October 12th, 2016.

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Professionally, I worked as an advocate for victims of domestic violence at a domestic violence shelter, and currently I am a psychiatric nurse. Personally, I have been through two relationships with narcissists, and have been able to not only survive those, but have been able to move forward and thrive.

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