57. Refusing to perpetuate the status quo in your business

Transcending your dichotomy is about refusing to believe the lie that you have to compromise your values or your truest self to succeed... This means unlearning teachings, norms, standards, requirements that you did not choose for yourself. Things that you have been conditioned to believe are true and important, and that you continue to try to achieve, meet, and obtain despite the fact that when you do you are completely misaligned, lost, and giving up your agency. Endlessly working to achieve perfection, to try to do things the "right" way, etc leaves you depleted because these are not your values. You did not choose these. They were placed there by someone else and are rooted in systems of oppression. The answer is not to get better at meeting these standards. The answer is to unlearn them and create a new way. Where we go wrong is that we *believe*, due to this conditioning, that when we run ourselves into the ground, bail on our integrity, and try to follow the rules, we are only sacrificing ourselves. In fact, when we do that, we are perpetuating the status quo. We are passing up opportunities to root into our own agency and self-trust and prove to others that there are other options. That it is a lie. It just so happens that the work that you must do to free yourself up to create what YOU truly desire, as a high-integrity person who seeks change, is the same work that must be done if you are truly committed to resisting the status quo. Stop letting people make you feel like you don't have what it takes and show them that it can all be done without their harmful tactics and bullshit lies.