What is Truthful vs Helpful?

Often, when I talk to clients they’ll say things like, “I can’t control myself around sweets,” “I”m lazy,” “I hate to exercise,” “I”m too old,” or “I”m just not disciplined.” And when I ask the question back to them, Is that true? Is it really true? They can give me a whole host of examples & evidence of why that’s true. Sometimes we say things that feel like we’re just reporting the weather - as if we’re just stating the truth. And so in this podcast episode, you’ll learn the difference between thoughts and statements that are truthful, but then the second thing we want to ask ourselves is, but is it helpful? Because when I think the thoughts “I can’t control myself around sweets,” “I”m lazy,” “I hate to exercise,” “I”m too old,” or “I”m just not disciplined,” you know what I don’t feel like doing? I don’t feel like eating a vegetable or going for a walk. When I say these things, even if they feel like facts, they just aren’t helpful in moving me in the direction towards controlling myself around sweets, getting consistent in an exercise routine, or learning to do something new.